Agony Aunt!!!

Yahoo! Answers posed this query by some girl Megan. I tried to give an answer.

QUE> My Boy Friend Told Me He loves me and that he never wants to be with anyone else but me. I really like him, but i don't love him, I Feel really bad because He Is An Amazing Guy But I Don't Know If I Want To Be With Him. Im So Confused. I Want To Dump Him But i want to love him. Help?

ANS> Such confusion. Such youth wasted.

First thing first. General assumption is girls* lead boys into this. They may not love/like the guy but they can't do away with the attention showered on them either. Girls need it for self gratification. In the deal the guy is left high and dry. He can't even complain. The girl always said "we are good friends". She never brought up the 'L' word. But is it so simple. Is life so simple; all black and white and no shades of gray?

It's a win win scenario for you. You have an admirer, a satellite, a puppy. What do you have to lose. Why even bother telling him? Dump the idiot at your own convenience. You never uttered the 'L' word, right. It was he who said it, not you?

But, but, but, if you cherish your friendship do your friend a favor. Tell him honestly. Make it clear to him. How you do it is up to you but DO make it clear (Black and white). Cut him out (for some time at least) to convey that you are serious in your intention.

Short term Repercussions:
1. He will hate you.
2. He will call you a b*&$#
3. He will have a miserable few months. This phase will be for your friend to handle.

Benefits:
1. You will be honest towards this relationship.
2. You will be happy and in the long run your friend will be happy too.

So, matey go ahead and be honest to both of you. See it as a duty towards your friend.

*Why blame girls only; even guys do it.
DON'T LET SOMEONE BECOME A PRIORITY IN YOUR LIFE WHEN YOU ARE JUST AN OPTION IN THEIRS